Baby name consultant: First baby, a boy–John+[something] or Jude?

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Okay everyone, buckle up — this is a daddy of a consultation! In more ways than one! Yes, it’s really long (twenty-three ideas for this couple! What!) (You’ll see why!), and also, it’s a papa that commissioned me to do this consultation!

Cameron is one of my most loyal and encouraging readers, and I’m delighted today to post this consultation for he and his wife Chelsey, who are expecting their first baby — a boy!

C&C have fully agreed on Jude Alden as an amazing combo that they both love, that has great meaning for them as well — a great, saintly first name and a nod to Chelsey’s dad in the middle.

But what would a consultation be without a dilemma? For this couple, it’s that Cameron’s full name is John Cameron, and his dad’s first name is John as well. Cameron loves the idea of giving his firstborn son the first name John, like he and his dad, and have him go by his middle name. BUT he and Chelsey love Jude Alden. And they can’t figure out a John ___ name they like as much or better.

Cameron writes,

“Since my dad and I are both first borns and both have “John” as our first name, I always thought it’d be really cool to turn that into a tradition should God bless me with a boy first … Jude Alden just hit us in the face one day when we were out and about and we just stopped and knew right away that we loved that name. It is a power hitter name regards to our faith; being one of the apostles, and honors Chelsey’s father for his middle name! 🙂

[I feel like] Jude Alden is the perfect name… for a younger brother. Chelsey would gladly name it for the first born … However, after having that discussion with you a while back regarding Jude in the spotlight, I have heavily considered giving up my “made up tradition of John + something” to replace it with Jude Alden as a first born, thinking that maybe we’ll never get the chance to use the only name we’ve both come up with and loved.

Obviously Jude Alden is the forerunner. It could very possibly happen that when we see our boy, we just know it’s a Jude and that’s that. We are coming to you to help us with our “John Dilemma”.

John is the beloved apostle and I (Cameron) have a dear devotion to him and his connection with Our Lady. I love John for being a very strong solid name, and the thought of tying in another name to that is so exciting. But Jude Alden is stellar… who knows.”

(Cameron calls it a “made up tradition” because he wasn’t actually named John [something] *because* his dad was, it just worked out that way.)

Except for Jude Alden, Cameron and Chelsey have pretty different taste in names. For Cameron,

“I personally am not a big fan of super “secular” sounding names like “Hunter, Derek, Brad, Jordan, etc…” or names along those lines for the MAIN NAME that we would call our child. We have tossed around ideas including a secular name as a middle name (or first, doesn’t matter what order, really) for example, but not the name we could call him. That includes several, obviously, so I wouldn’t write all those out. … I love good solid Catholic names. You know that. Raphael, Gabriel, Paul, John, Jude, Titus, Daniel. Chelsey and I have been thinking about not being TOO obsessive (mainly me) about having a super well known Catholic name, because we love the thoughts of our children being new saints, thus creating a new name for other families using in reverence and honor….if that makes sense.”

(I totally cracked up at this: “Chelsey and I have been thinking about not being TOO obsessive (mainly me) about having a super well known Catholic name”!! 😀 )

Chelsey, on the other hand,

“likes uniqueness… Chelsey likes names that are a little bit more “rare” but still have a good sound to it, if that makes sense … [she doesn’t] like names that are very common, and [she’s] also not a fan of names that can appear boring, e.g. Paul, Bob, Tom, Sam, etc.. Some names [she does] like are killed by the shortened versions e.g. Elijah- Eli.”

Names Cameron likes but Chelsey doesn’t:

Paul (“I’d totally go for John Paul for obvious reasons, JPII!!!“)
Ezekiel
Isaac
Raphael
Samuel
August (“booooo” [John August is Cameron’s favorite combo])
Elijah
Dominic

Name Chelsey likes but Cameron doesn’t:

Ezra

Name they both kind of like:

Ignatius (but Cameron worries that it’s “SUCH a heavy hitter, that it almost seems to be too much“)

Names that are no-go’s:

Garett
Graham

And finally, for reference, some girls’ names they’ve discussed and like:

Lillian
Grace/Gracie
Willow
Haven
Noelle

Alrighty, first off, the idea of John+[something] is just one of those things that can’t be ignored. You know? On the one hand, I want to say that Jude Alden, being the name Cameron and Chelsey both agree on and love, is the perfect option for their little boy. On the other hand, naming traditions can be so meaningful, and given that John+something is Cameron’s name and his dad’s name, as firstborns, I don’t think it’s the kind of thing that they can shelve for now and maybe consider if they ever have a second boy. I think this baby boy here is their one shot at John+something. So that’s kind of a lot of pressure! It might seem like they’re down to “family tradition” (which happens to nicely coincide with Cameron’s particular devotion to St. John the Evangelist and Our Lady, beautiful) vs. “favorite name, and the one we can happily agree on.”

I posted a while ago on whether parents should reserve names for later use at the expense of using them now or vice versa (in that example it was “Felix now at the expense of Felicity later?” but it works perfectly for John+[something] vs. Jude Alden) and two things that came up in the comments seemed really helpful: (1) name this baby as if he/she were your last baby, and (2) in light of that, which name would you be sadder not to ever get to use? If this little boy is the only little boy that C&C are ever blessed with, would they be sadder to not use John as a first name in the tradition of Cameron and his dad, or the handsome and agreed-upon combo Jude Alden? (Cameron actually commented on that post — this is a really hard dilemma for them, which has been hanging over them for a while!) (Also, if you want to get a glimpse of these sweetest expectant parents, click on his username!)

So my main goals (and my hopes for you all in the comments!) is either to come up with a John+ name that will make them both really happy and not feel like they’re settling, or help them realize Jude Alden is *the* answer, and either way not set them up for name regret later. Cameron started emailing me about this dilemma several months ago, and we’ve had quite a long conversation about it — I’ve suggested several (where “several”=”23”) ideas to them, and since none of them have hit quite the right note, I hope you all can come up with something that’s just right (or maybe Jude Alden is meant to be this little boy’s name?). My ideas are:

(1) John Alden, called Jude
This is probably my top option. It has all three of the elements they both want: John, Alden, and Jude. I know it’s an offbeat idea — you all know I totally specialize in offbeat nickname ideas! So I get it if it’s just too crazy for C&C. It’s the kind of choice that they’d really have to be 100% with and just own it — telling people firmly and consistently that yes, his given name is John Alden, and yes, he’s called Jude exclusively.

(2) John Jude Alden, called Jude
The two-middle name option isn’t for everyone, but it’s a tactic often employed when there are a bunch of names that parents can’t choose between.

(3) John Thaddeus, called Jude
This is probably the one that’s closest to my own personal taste. Thaddeus is after St. Jude Thaddeus, and I think his full name is familiar enough to people that if you say his name is John Thaddeus but you’re calling him Jude, people will probably raise eyebrows because it’s an unorthodox way of getting to Jude, but I don’t think they’d be like, “Where the heck do you get Jude from John Thaddeus??” Another nice thing is that with the “J” of John and the “ude” that’s contained within Thaddeus, Jude is almost like a mashup nickname of the first+middle names. Finally, Thaddeus is a style match for Ignatius and Raphael — it’s got loads of Catholic cachet; it’s also super biblical like Chelsey’s Ezra and several of the names Cameron likes. If they were to go with John Thaddeus nicked Jude, they’d have two of their three important elements — John and Jude. It’ll be important to consider whether or not Chelsey’s dad will be upset with not being included in their first son’s name.

(4) John Ignatius
I think it’s really telling that C&C are both considering Ignatius — besides Jude Alden, it’s the only name they listed that they’re both okay with! John Ignatius is an amazing combo. I know that Cameron said he doesn’t like the “main name” their son will be called (sometimes called a “call name” in the naming world) to sound secular, which I totally get. But I suspect that Chelsey might not mind that so much, and perhaps a good compromise between their tastes would be a heavy hitting super duper Catholicky Catholic given name, like John Ignatius, with a friendlier, more accessible nickname/call name, which I think usually sound secular. I don’t think Gus translates as Catholic, for example, even though St. Augustine is such a big deal, and Gus is a natural nickname for it. Does that make sense? Anyway, with that in mind, John Ignatius with a great nickname might be just the thing for this baby. I’ve seen Iggy, Nate, and Nash as nicknames for Ignatius — I don’t think Iggy’s their taste; Nate’s a pretty safe choice — familiar, masculine; and I’m going to guess that Cameron hates Nash and that Chelsey thinks “Huh. Nash is kinda cute.” But I’d let it sit for a while! I wrote a while ago about when Mom and Dad have different tastes and how to deal with that – heavy hitting given names with cooler/friendlier nicknames were one way to go (I blogged about it here: https://sanctanomina.net/2015/01/14/baby-name-consultant-he-likesshe-likes/, and reworked it into a column for CatholicMom here: http://catholicmom.com/2015/04/15/patrick-vs-polycarp/). An easy nickname also helps to deal with Cameron’s concern that Ignatius is “SUCH a heavy hitter, that it almost seems to be too much.”

(5) John Ezra, called Ezra
Most of the time, if I knew Dad really felt strongly about a certain first name, I would unequivocally think the fairest thing would be for Mom to get full rights to the middle name. This situation is a little trickier because their son would actually go by his middle name and C&C will both have to deal with calling him by that name every day for his whole life, so it’s not as easy as picking a mostly hidden middle name. But their tastes are actually not that far off from each other! Cameron’s picks of Ezekiel, Isaac, and Elijah are all style matches for Chelsey’s Ezra, so I feel like it shouldn’t be that much of a thing to scooch closer together, you know? Of course, I also know that’s not really how naming works — you both like what you like and that’s just the way it is. But I’d consider John Ezra. Something Cameron wants, something Chelsey wants. Ezra’s a really cool name I think, and while it doesn’t have the Catholic cachet the names on Cameron’s list have, I think the full “John Ezra” steers it more in that direction. For what it’s worth, I also think John Ezra and Jude Alden are amazing brother names! Similar lengths, and Ezra and Jude sound really cute together.

(6) John Caleb
Caleb is a great name in my opinion, and a great style match for the Old Testament names they both like. It can also take the awesome (imo) nickname Cal, if they wanted to do a nickname. So cute!! But then Chelsey said some names that she might otherwise like are “killed by the shortened versions e.g. Elijah-Eli” – I don’t feel like I have a good handle on what nicknames she would consider dealbreakers (I loved the examples of Paul, Bob, Tom, Sam, etc. – perfect! But I’m less sure about the more uncommon nicknames, like Cal, for example. I was also surprised to see she doesn’t like Eli, as I would probably have thought she would have liked it). I don’t think Caleb needs a nickname, and I don’t think most people would think to shorten it to a nickname. I also like that John Caleb would share initials with Dad – another nice connection.

(7) John Roman
Roman is another one that seems like it might be just perfect. It can be heavy duty Catholicky Catholic, with its ties to (in my mind) the Pope, the Vatican, Roman Catholicism, etc. But I think it can also appeal to those who prefer names that are a little less heavy – there are some celebs that have used the name Roman, for example, like Cate Blanchett, Molly Ringwald, Debra Messing, and Rodney Peete. It’s a style match for Raphael, Dominic, and Noelle, and the similar sounding Ronan is a style match for Haven, all of which I thought was pretty awesome. John Roman is really handsome. (Or John Ronan?)

(8) John Gabriel
Gabriel is a style match for Isaac, Raphael, Samuel, and Elijah, as well as being a great Catholic name – St. Gabriel the Archangel brings to mind Our Lady and the Annunciation, which are beautiful Marian tie-ins for a boy. Gabe is one of the best nicknames imo, and I’ve often thought Gil could totally work too. John Gabriel rocks.

(9) John Kolbe or John Xavier
I wonder what they’d both think of Kolbe? I’m feeling like it might overlap really nicely with both their styles. It can sound trendy, like Colby and Coby and Cody, but it’s St. Maximilian Kolbe all the way. Loads of Catholic families I know have been choosing it for their sons; it’s a great option, and very recognizably Catholic. Kole could also work as a pretty cool nickname. I love John Kolbe.

I’m including Xavier in the same category because it’s a saint’s last name that’s being used as a first name. It’s gotten popular recently, but I still think it comes across as exclusively Catholic. I really like John Xavier.

(10) John Francis
Okay, hear me out – Francis is St. Francis of Assisi, it’s Pope Francis, it’s awesome. But most people I’ve talked about it with don’t care for Francis as a call name, and I’m guessing Frank/Frankie isn’t really C&C’s style. So I wonder what they’d think of the nickname I keep pushing on people for Francis: Finn? One of the things about Catholicky Catholic names is that you might be saddling a child with a name that’s too heavy for them when they’re little, so having nicknames that are easy and friendly, or that fit in with their peers, can sometimes be as much a gift as the Amazing Saint Name you gave them. Does that make sense? So there are going to be a lot of little Finns this year, because of the new Star Wars movie, but he’s a great character, and a little John Francis would happily and easily fit in with his peers if he went by Finn.

(11) John Matthias
Matthias might really work for this baby as well. He’s in the New Testament – he was chosen by the Apostles to replace Judas, so I think Matthias can be considered a really Catholic name, since his selection was the result of an official meeting of the Apostles – one of the first (if not THE first) Church Councils perhaps? In a manner of thinking? It’s got that heavy biblical feel that Ezekiel, Isaac, Samuel, Elijah, Jude, and Ezra have as well, and could shorten to Matt/Matty if you like (one of the objectively coolest people I’ve ever known has a son named Matty, so you know Matty’s a good nickname! Haha!).

(12) John Bryant
In emailing with Cameron I discovered that Bryant’s an important family surname for Chelsey, and I wondered if she’d like to balance Cameron’s family first name pick with her own family middle name pick? Bryant’s a great surname to have in the family mix to have if you’d ever want to consider using it for a child, because it’s so first-namey.

(13) John Michael, John Miles, John Milo
Miles and Milo were my first ideas here—I know you all have seen me suggest them ad nauseam to others on the blog but darn it, I’m going to keep suggesting it til someone uses it! 😀 I love them because they’re Marian! The Irish name Maolmuire, which means “devotee of Mary” has been anglicized as Miles/Myles/Milo! I’ve also seen Miles and Milo offered as offbeat nickname ideas for Michael, so I thought if C&C kind of liked Miles and/or Milo but were still hesitant, maybe John Michael would work for them with the nickname Miles or Milo?

(14) John Connor
The combo John Connor reminded me of John Cardinal O’Connor, the amazing archbishop of the Archdiocese of New York who founded the Sisters of Life—a great association! Connor’s a great name.

(15) John Owen
I’m dying over brothers Owen and Jude, love! And St. Nicholas Owen has been a favorite of mine for a while—he built hiding places for priests in England and was martyred for the faith. And it’s also my newest nephew’s name. 🙂

(16) John Elliott
Elliott has strong connections to the faith—in origin it’s a diminutive of Elias, which is the Greek form of Elijah. I’ve always considered Elijah/Elias/Elliott to be Marian, because the cloud the prophet Elijah saw on the water from Mt Carmel in the book of Kings is said to have represented Our Lady. Indeed the Carmelites trace their history back to Elijah and that incident—they were venerating Our Lady long before she was born. It gives me goosebumps to think about!

(17) John Charles nicked Cal
C&C did actually let me know that they both liked the nickname Cal from my Caleb suggestion, which made me think that maybe Charles was the answer. Cal is a traditional (though somewhat uncommon) nickname for Charles, and Charles is all kinds of awesome—JP2’s birth name was Karol, which is the Polish for Charles; there’s also St. Charles Borromeo and one of my new favorites Bl. Karl of Austria and a bunch of others. This ties in well (I think) with their decision to not be “TOO obsessive about having a super well known Catholic name”—it’s got impeccable credentials but doesn’t hit you in the face with it.

(18) John Leo
Pope St. Leo the Great! It’s also on the rise popularity-wise, having cracked the top 100 or the first time since 1937 in 2014 after rising steadily since 1995, so it’s got appeal beyond the Catholic world.

(19) John Robert nicked Rory or Bo
I suspect that Chelsey’s first reaction to Robert will be “ugh”! But St. Robert Bellarmine is a great saint, so maybe Cameron will like it, and updating the nickname options from Bob(by) or Rob(by) to Rory or Bo might do the trick. Rory is a style match for some other names that are similar to Jude, like Finn. Brothers Rory and Jude would be so cute! And I’m including Bo because my brother and SIL, parents of the Owen I mentioned above, considered Bo as a nickname for their next baby, and Robert was one of the suggestions I gave them for a way to get to it.

(20) John William nicked Will or Liam, or John Liam
William is as solid as they come, and Will and Liam are great nicknames. Liam was actually a style match for Willow, which is what encouraged me to suggest it. There are a whole bunch of Sts. and Bls. William, and one is also known as Bl. Liam Tuiridh.

(21) John Damian/Damien (nicked Danny or Denny?)
Finally, Damian is a style match for Noelle, and of course I immediately thought of St. Damian (of Damian and Cosmas fame) and St. Damien de Veuster (sorry to Chelsey, I have the “uber Catholic name” bug like Cameron! It’s just how my namey mind works!) and wondered what they’d think of them? Damien’s one of those that I’ve tried to convince my hubs of, and he won’t have any of it because of the demon child in the 1970s horror movie The Omen, which I’ve never seen and neither has he, but people do seem to associate that movie with these names. Which just kills me. Although, the popularity of the name has actually increased since that movie came out! Both variants are impeccably saintly, and though neither has traditional nicknames, I’ve often thought Danny (for Damian) and Denny (for Damien) could work.

(22) John Thomas or John Timothy nicked Ty or Trey or Trip(per)
I know Chelsey said she didn’t like Tom, but I was thinking if they use John for this baby, he’ll be the third Murray boy in succession to have John as his first name. So Trey could totally work as a nickname for him, and really it doesn’t matter what his middle name is, they could still use Trey, but I thought a “T” middle name might be the most appealing. Thomas and Timothy were the two I thought might be the best, not having any particular hardcore Catholic feel even though they *are* hardcore Catholic. Then the idea of Timothy reminded me that I’ve seen Ty used as a nickname for it, and I quite liked that too: John Timothy nicked Ty.

Trip(per) is because I know another boy who’s the III and he’s always gone by Tripper, I love it. Totally sounds like an athlete’s nickname, no? (And not to get totally crazy here, but one could possibly think of Trey/Trip(per) as a nod to the Trinity. Oh man.)

(23) John [middle name meaning “beloved” or otherwise referring to St. John] nicknamed Trey, Trip(per) if desired
This is actually a brand-new suggestion for C&C, which I haven’t yet offered. Piggybacking on the previous suggestion and my assertion that C&C can call their baby Trey or Tripper no matter what his middle name is as long as his first name is John, I thought I’d suggest some names that could refer specifically to St. John the Beloved Disciple:

Amatus — means “beloved”
Erasmus, Erastus — mean “beloved”
David — likely meaning “beloved”

Cruz — means “cross,” referring to the Cross of Crucifixion and the fact that St. John the Beloved was there with Him, and that Jesus gave His mother to St. John from the Cross (though I would use the “croos” pronunciation and not the Spain-Spanish “crooth”)

John Amatus, John Erasmus, John Erastus, John David, and John Cruz are all all pretty amazing (I’m loving John Cruz! I actually love it without the Trey/Trip nicknames — Cruz is great!).

Whew! Okay! Those are all my ideas, but I’m dying to hear yours — what would you all suggest for this family torn between John+[something] and Jude Alden? Or any advice?

62 thoughts on “Baby name consultant: First baby, a boy–John+[something] or Jude?”

  2. Wow! So many suggestions!

    FWIW, I have a 5.5 year old named Jude. When we named him, we liked that the name was familiar but that we hadn’t ever personally met someone with that name. Well. Since in, in our homeschool group every year there have been at least 2 and as many as 6 Judes. So there is a little Jude boom in the Catholic world, if you are concerned/interested in that sort of thing.

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  3. I think it’s absolutely okay to feel like maybe this baby just *is* Jude Alden and maybe there is a future baby boy who simply is John Something. I agree you shouldn’t save names etc etc, but it sounds as though John Something is really the second choice anyway. We just had our third boy and I wanted so badly to name him after my husband. We didnt. But I hold out hope that maybe a future baby boy will get that name. And if not, maybe a grandchild. Ha. Jude Alden is a great name. Don’t fret. And, I bet if you use John Something in the future, the perfect name will come to you at that point. Ohhhhh or maybe Johanna something 😉

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  4. Since I have a Jude of my own, I should be incredibly biased towards Jude Alden. However, I absolutely LOVE name traditions. Nothing says “you belong in this family” like a name tradition so I can understand the dilemma. The first born daughters on my mothers side all have the middle name Joyce that spans 5 generations, which I have always admired, even though I am not in that lineup. I read that John August is not a name Chelsea likes, but would Chelsea maybe like a John Augustine called Augie? I know it was mentioned in the blog as an option, but it is the same style as Ignatius and I know of 5 other Augustine boys, so maybe there is an Augustine boom in the Catholic world too. (Disclaimer, my second son is named Augustine nn Augie, so I definitely have a bias.) So many fantastic names! Whatever you pick will be perfect!

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  5. My strong advice is not to save names. You simply can’t guarantee that there will ever be a second son. I know SO many families with 5+ children where the oldest is one gender and the rest are the other. And fertility can be fickle. I’m not assuming this will he their only child, but what if it were?

    With that in mind, my suggestion was going to be the same as JoAnna’s: John Alden Jude, call name Jude. Both John Alden and Alden Jude sound very strong (I actually think Alden Jude flows better than Jude Alden which is a bit clunkier to say), so this combines the two.

    Finally, a few more things: I don’t recommend using a call name beginning with C unless they wish to either establish that precedent for ALL of their children (since they both have C names), or to create some sibling issues down the road (oh, you have mom & dad’s initial, you must be their favorite…believe me, this is something siblings do).

    And finally, the name Erasmus makes me think of that routine on the radio program Car Talk where they’d list off their pretend staff with punny names. Their legal team was “Dewey, Cheetham, and Howe” and “Erasmus B. Dragon” was “Head of Working Mother Support Group”.

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  6. I just had to comment-my husband and I are expecting our first and have/had a very, very similar issue (family tradition name vs. a name we love). Ironically, the names are extremely similar! We decided to combine the tradition name with the name we really like (as the middle name, which we will call the baby by, if it’s a boy!). It’s a hard choice to make!!

    Anyway- I like the suggestion above of John Alden Jude!

    Would you consider John Jude, called Jude? I’ll admit that the flow isn’t the best, but it’s not too bad, and you would be calling him Jude primarily. Or, what about John Judah? I think the flow of that is a bit better, and you could call him Jude. With those options, you do sacrifice the Alden middle name, but you still get the tradition of “John something”, which I think is so cool!

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  7. Oh, you’ve given me an idea to solve *our* name dilemma! (Which is similar, if this baby is a boy: naming tradition in my husband’s family vs. naming for my dad. And I would absolutely love to use both names but we’ve struggled with fertility in the past so I know I can’t count on that! Why can’t this family and us just start with twin boys?! 😄)

    Anyway, I like a lot of your suggestions (John Gabriel!) and normally I don’t go for two middle names, but I think John Alden Jude sounds like their best option.

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  8. What a great consultation! Fascinating and so thoughtful as always!

    I’ll admit a fondness for John in any combination, it’s one of my favourite boy names anyway, but Jude Alden is so handsome and meaningful too. I love Cal as a nickname but I agree with grace that another C name could be tying, but then it doesn’t need to be and technically it would be John C.

    John Connor though, I feel I should say, is all ‘Terminator’ franchise for me, since it’s the main character’s name. I thought of it immediately, which annoys me, since it’s such a nice combination.

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  9. Piping in right quick to distract myself while dad’s in surgery.

    I’m all for the 2 middle names trend. It is the best of both worlds. And not all subsequent kiddos are required bro have grew names.

    St. Nicholas Owen is also a family fave around here!
    Wasn’t he called “little John”?

    I love that you brought up Bl. Liam Tirry!! That is our Liam’s namesake.

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  10. I think your suggestion of John Jude Alden and JoAnna’s suggestion of John Alden Jude are fantastic. Sometimes too many J’s is clunky, but I think both these options roll off the tongue really well.

    The only thing I wanted to point out though is that John Connor is the name of a main character in the “Terminator” movie franchise, which I’m afraid would be what most people will think of when they hear it.

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  11. I think John Jude Alden or John Alden Jude would work, and both sound nice to me. If they DON’T want to do the two middle names option, and if they REALLY love the name, my instinct would actually be to save the name. There’s a chance there will be another son, but there’s no chance there will be another first born. If it’s John ______ I really like your idea of John Ezra, since that’s Chelsey’s favorite, balancing the name out between mom and dad. I agree that Ezra and Jude, if they’re blessed with another son, make good brothers. (I also think it works if their taste turns more “obsessive” later on lol. Ezra, Jude, Iggy, JP, Gus – they all work together if they start to love the super Catholic names.)

    That said, if there’s another reason they love Jude Alden, then maybe I’d put John off for now. I know they love it and it’s great they agree on it. If there was some experience or another significant reason for loving that particular name for THIS particular baby, then I’d be less inclined to use John. (Like, you know the stories where a woman goes to a church called “St. _____” and then meets a person with that same name later that day and then finds out she’s pregnant and then happens to reads a quote from that same saint a few days later – I’m going on and on now lol but you know what I mean, right?! If it was that kind of situation in addition to loving the name, then I’d say go for it because it would seem the name was already chosen.)

    But if that’s not the case, my preference would be to use John. You only get one first born! Whatever they decide, I’m sure the name will be perfect. 🙂

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  12. John and Jude are both beautiful names, so I don’t know which one I would choose. If they go with John, my favorite combo is John Henry.
    But maybe they could find a way to use Jude and still keep a name tradition: by choosing the name Jude Cameron. John Cameron has the same name as his father, so maybe his son could be named after him: instead of 3 Johns in a row, there would be 2 Johns in a row and then 2 Camerons in a row: John, then John Cameron and then Jude Cameron. There would be still a tradition and the 3 names would still look coherent together, but they would keep he name they love.

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  13. I love the double-boy name for them, too, just to chime in. John Alden Jude is my favorite, but even getting creative with spelling / hyphenating I think shouldn’t be off the table. Any of those names stand alone as spell-able & pronounce-able. No one would sniff at John or Jude, and Alden is familiar-sounding, like Aiden or Walden (more like a surname used as first name, which just seems very cool to do! I would love to use some surnames)–all reasons to me to go for complex spelling/hyphens. I know we planned on using a certain full name and then our daughter was nicknamed shortly after birth by extended family, so if they are set on this as a deeply significant honor name but the boy WILL go by Jude, they’ve gotta be prepared to stand their ground against Johnny or JJ or Jade etc. So if they love the idea of following a tradition that really they’d be starting (which I think is awesome) but they also love the Jude Alden, use all 3! John-Alden Jude, John-Jude Alden, John Alden-Jude, or maybe doing offbeat JohnAlden Jude, Johnalden Jude (sounds fine, could look like Jonathan on forms)…

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    • I think it’s totally possible to stave off nicknames from family members if you are set on calling the child something specific. Three of our children have highly nicknamable names, and yet all go by the full name because we insisted on it from the beginning. We had friends and relatives suggest all sorts of nicknames, from common to unique, and we just stuck with what we wanted the child to be called. Parents do have that authority, at least until the child is an adult—then all bets are off.

      So, I think if they’re set on calling him Jude, but it’s his middle name, they can just insist on it.

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  14. I feel like, just from not knowing Cameron at all, that because the name John is nagging at them, it could be a regret if they didn’t use it. I don’t know, I feel like if it wasn’t something at least Cameron truly cared about using then it wouldn’t be a problem. It seems like this is a true dilemma where neither option really is “the best” and it’s hard to see which way to go.

    Katie, I think you’ve made so many wonderful suggestions it’s hard to come up with more! But the idea John Caleb stuck with me because it has the same initials as Cameron’s name. So what about Jude C_______ so it’s kinda carrying on something from dad’s name, like Cameron’s does, but is different? Then they still get to use Jude, but they also get the nod to dad, which seems to be more of the tradition than using John _______ going by _________.

    I though am one who doesn’t really like to break tradition and I would probably personally with John _______, for no other reason than tradition.

    Also, thinking about the future, would they be 100% opposed to a girl Jude? I know a girl Jude (little Grace thought Jude was a girls name for a long time because she was the first Jude I heard of), and maybe that could be an option for the next baby? Where they say no matter what Jude is the next baby’s name, if they are so blessed?

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  15. I’d say John Jude Alden and call him Jude. They have no way of knowing if this child will be their only boy or not, so they should use all of the names they love. They could also easily call him JJ.

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  16. Since Cameron himself doesn’t go by John, there isn’t any reason that their son would have to either. To me, the choice is easy: John Jude Alden. (But the choice is ALWAYS easy when it isn’t your kid).

    I do want to respond to the off-hand comment regarding Jordan as a secular name — it’s curious that it has come to have that connotation modernly, because that sure isn’t the historic story! The root of the name is probably Germanic (like many European names), but the reason it became so popular as a given name was due to its connection with the River Jordan. Crusaders would bring back water from that river to baptise their children, many of whom were then named Jordan. That’s pretty non-secular!

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  17. Before I read your suggestions I immediately thought “John Jude Alden.” Get to use John+ AND Jude Alden. I personally love the two middle names.

    After reading your suggestions though, I think John Thaddeus is my favorite. For me at least, it’s an obvious connection to Jude. It might be because I love the name Thaddeus (but my husband does not!) but it would be neat to “use” the name and still call him Jude.

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  18. Just to throw out some more combos for John___, I really like John Gideon and John Malachi for this family. I know a little Malachi who goes by Mali as I nickname, and it’s so cute! Plus, Malachi and Gideon are both biblical/saintly, but also uncommon but not too strange.

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    • I also like John Christopher (with the nickname Topher to make it a bit more unique), as well as John Nathaniel. Or how about John Benedict? And if Chelsey doesn’t like John August, would she like John Augustine? Personally I hate the name August, but love the name Augustine (which is silly since they’re variations of each other, but I guess there’s little rhyme or reason to name liking). Ooh, or maybe John Pius? Padre Pio (formally called St. Pius of Pietrelcina) told St. JP II (when JP was still a priest) that he’d reach the highest rank in the Church. That could be a nice way to additionally point to St. JP II, AND add an extra awesome saint. I also like John Jerome. Jerome was called The Thunderer, and St. John was called the Son of Thunder.

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  19. Great post. I can tell you put a lot of thought into this one! I love the name John so that is my vote! One thing to consider is for John Owen, I thought Owen was the Irish form of John. If so then that would be naming the baby John John.

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