It’s such a sad Monday morning after the shooting in Orlando this past weekend. So many people are grieving, what a tragedy — the loss of human life is always a devastation. I read through the list of the victims of the shooting and was struck by the amazing collection of patron saints represented by the names of the deceased — so many holy ones to implore for intercession. Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon them. May they rest in peace, and please bring peace to our country. πβ€
As I feltΒ in the wake of Paris, it seems almost inappropriate to continue on with thisΒ fun, joyful work of naming babies in the wake of death, but at the same time, it’s important work, and this wee one on the way might be the very person that brings the begged-for peace to our hearts, our country, and our world. Babies=hope, thank you Jesus. β€ β€ β€
Babies=hope, and such joy! With gratitude for the gift of new life, I’m happy to post today’s consultation: Katie and her husband are expecting their third baby, a little green bean! π± He or she will join big sibs:
Asher Henry
Margaret Elizabeth (Margo)
Such cool names, right? Asher and Margo is such an awesome sibset!
Katie writes,
“I have always loved names, but Iβm at a loss with this one. We are team green for this baby …Β Asher was chosen because I liked that it was biblical, unique (in 2008), yet a βrealβ name. It also means βhappyβ which I love. Henry is in honor of my grandfather, Patrick Henry.
Margo was named in honor of my great aunt Margaret (Margie for short) who was an all-around awesome lady. I went back and forth between Greta and Margo, for the nickname to choose but eventually settled on Margo. Elizabeth is my middle name, my momβs middle name, and in honor of my grandmother Betty.
I definitely struggle more with boy names than girl names …”
Katie and her hubs have some guidelines they’d like to follow:
-“I would prefer a name that can make a nickname especially for a girl. Iβm just Katie. Not Katherine or Kathleen. I always kind of wished I had a βrealβ name.
-Bonus points for Southern
-Bonus points for Catholic/Biblical
-Iβm not sure if itβs just me but I worry about names that end in the βen sound with our last name [which ends in -ins]. It feels too sing songy. Am I being neurotic?
-It has to pass the senator rule. If it doesnβt sound good with Senator in front of it, it doesnβt pass muster.”
Names that they’re considering include:
Girl
Camilla (Millie)
Cora
Eloise
Cecily
Blanche
Greer
Estella (Stella)
Boy
Edward (Teddy)
Grant
Lawson
Reid
Hayes
Joel
Seth
Sean
Blaise (“Not sure if Iβm ‘brave’ enough for this one!“)
Great list of names! I love the names on theirΒ girl listβGreer and Stella are personal faves of mine, and the others are beautiful and feminine, and I canβt believe Blanche is on there! Iβve never seen it on anyoneβs list ever! (Though this past winter I heard Fr. Gaitley talk about his book 33 Days to Morning Glory, and he told quite a bit of his personal story, which involved a former girlfriend from France named Blanche, except he pronounced it the French way, not rhyming with ranch (which is how I would say it) but like blah+sh with that almost unheard French between blah and sh. It was the first time I could picture Blanche on a young person!)
Anyway! They gave me a good sense of Katie and her hubs’Β taste in girlβs names, and when I did a little research into Southern naming traditions, it all made sense, because I found Blanche and Greer on one particular list I found from Southern Living.
TheirΒ boy names are also very consistent with the Southern theme, and they’veΒ also got some good biblical names in there. By far my favorite name on the list is Blaise! I think itβs ah-MAZ-ing with Asher and Margo! I personally would consider Blanche to be the most daring name of them all, so if they’reΒ good with Blanche theyΒ should totally be brave enough for Blaise!
Okay! On to my ideas. You allΒ know that I almost always start a consultation by looking up the names the parents haveΒ used and like in the Baby Name Wizard, as it lists, for each entry, boy and girl names that are similar in terms of style/feel/popularity. Using that research, as well as my own mental files, and the research I did on Southern-type names, these are my suggestions:
Girl
(1) Annabel(le)
I didnβt do the research on Southern names until after Iβd looked through the BNW and picked through my mind, so I was delighted to see that one of my top ideas for Katie and her hubsΒ was listed in that same link to southern baby names! Annabel is a recent favorite of mine, as it can be considered a Marian name! Itβs actually a form of Amabel, which comes from the Latin amabilis, meaning amiable/lovable, and is part of the Marian title Mater Amabilis. How cool is that! Itβs got the great nickname option of Annie, which I love; the Annabelle spelling is particularly southern; itβs got the Catholic angle covered; it doesnβt end in βen; and I think it passes the Senator Rule just fine. All theirΒ requirements!
(2) Eve, Eva, Ava, Evelyn
Eve is a totally biblical name, obviously, but it strikes me as also having a really sophisticated, distinguished feel, kind of sparse and chic, very Senator-like. I like that it fits with Asherβs biblical-ness and Margoβs coolness; Evie is one of the sweetest nicknames ever imo; it can also be considered Marian because of Mary being the New Eve (Iβm a sucker for a Marian name!); and while I donβt know if Eve comes across as particularly Southern, every time I see Evelyn I hear Jessica Tandy saying it in a Southern accent in the movie Fried Green Tomatoes, which was set in Georgia, so I feel like Evelyn could be a good option that retains a lot of Eveβs charm. Eva and Ava were also variants that showed up in my BNW as being similar to names this familyΒ likes.
(3) Caroline
Caroline is a great style match for Margaret, and itβs got some great nickname options like Carrie, Caro, Lina, Lola, Callie. It passes the Senator Rule, and a lot of people have been using it recently in honor of St. John Paul II. And itβs on that list of Southern names!
(4) Mary+
I donβt know a huge amount about Southern names, but I do know that double names are pretty common, and that double names for girls often involve a normal-ish first name with a family lastname as a middle, and that going by both names together, or just the middle name, is a tradition. That fits in exactly with the Catholic tradition of naming girls with the first name Mary, to be used in conjunction with the middle, like Mary Kate, Mary Grace, Mary Ann, etc., or to go just by the middle. Those kinds of namesβMary Grace etc.βhave a really Catholic feel, but I think putting Mary in front of any name makes the middle name very do-able for a girl, no matter what, and casts a Catholic shadow as well. I might encourage Katie and her hubsΒ to look through theirΒ family tree and find some last names that might work, for a really southern feel. Looking through the BNW, one of the girl names that was similar in style to some of theirΒ boys’ lastname ideas was TateβMary Tate is sweet!
Boy
(1) Brooks
I kind of love the name Brooks! Asher and Margo have kind of a preppy feel to meβin the best way! I love them together!βand Brooks so much fits in with that. Itβs similar in style to Grant, Lawson, Reid, and Hayes, and reminds me of Blaise as well because of being one syllable and starting with a B. It doesnβt have a Catholic or biblical feel, unfortunately, but I feel like a great middle name could fix that. Like Brooks Nathaniel or Brooks Benedict.
(2) Beau
Beau is such a Southern gentleman to me. I think immediately of Melanie Wilkesβ little Beau from Gone With the Wind, which is a sweet and obviously very Southern referenceβand itβs on that list of southern names I linked to above! I did a consultation for my sister-in-law last year, and one of her favorite combos wasΒ Francis Beau called Beauβthat combo also seems to have a particularly Southern flair to me! And Francis is so Catholic.
(3) Elliott or Emmett or Everett
I had both Elliott and Emmett on my list for this familyΒ before I read that southern-names article, and was excited to see theyβre both on there! Elliott was originally an English last name derived from a medieval diminutive of Elias, which is the Greek form of Elijah, so itβs technically biblical. And Emmett was originally an English last name derived from a medieval diminutive of Emma! I love that they were both originally last names, which I assume is one of the reasons they were on the list of southern names, and I love that Elliott is biblical, as it ties in so nicely with Asher (though not obviously). If theyΒ didnβt care for either of these for a son, I would totally suggest considering them for a daughter! Especially as Mary Elliott or Mary Emmett, even if theyΒ called her Elliott or Emmett on a daily basis (and Ellie and Emmy are great nicknames) — doing so seems more in keeping with the Southern tradition of putting last names or masculine names in the middle spot, rather than the boys-names-for-girls trend. (Iβd be interested to hear what Katie’s husband thinks of this line of thinkingβin my experience, most men donβt care to consider names for their sons that might also be do-able for their daughters.)
Iβm including Everett in this group because itβs got a similar sound and rhythm to Elliott and Emmett, though it wasnβt on the list of southern names. It was, however, listed in the BNW as similar to Cora and Estella. I also wouldnβt be as inclined to suggest it for a daughter, which Katie’sΒ husband might like better.
(4) Ethan
I thought getting at least one explicitly biblical name on the list was important, and Ethan seemed like a great fit. At first I was thinking it had a specifically southern feel as well, but when I looked it up to see why I felt that way, I realized Iβd been thinking of Ethan Allen, who was from Connecticut. Oops. But then the BNW said that Ethanβs been particularly popular in the heartland in recent years, which includes Kentucky, Tennessee, Arkansas, Louisiana, Mississippi, and Alabama, so I guess I was right in feeling that itβs popular in the south. This is the only name that ends in the βen sound that I included in my suggestions for Katie and her hubs, but Iβve said Ethan out loud a bunch of times with their last name (Ethan Jenkins is a good stand-in) and I think it sounds pretty fab. I actually tried a bunch of βen names out loud with their last name, to see which ones might not work, but honestly I thought they all sounded fine!
And those are my ideas for this family! What do you all think? What names would you suggest for a little brother or sister for Asher and Margo?